Listening Lunch Series: Listening Filters Part 3-Our Egos
Have you ever been sharing a story and have your conversation partner cut you off mid-sentence to tell you about something going on with them? Or perhaps you share an issue with a colleague or friend and without any knowledge of the context they start to tell you what you should do to solve it? You nod along and thank them for their advice but inside you’re SCREAMING. Their intentions were good, but the reality is they weren’t listening.
These are just a few examples of unconscious ego driven behaviors that show up in our conversations every day. And while it’s pretty easy to see them in others, it’s much more difficult to become aware of our own. But the key word here is UNCONSCIOUS. We’re not trying to be bad listeners, we’re just human and sometimes unaware of the impact that we are having on each other. In this online session we’ll walk through some of the common ways that our egos show up in conversations, introduce practices for becoming aware of our own egoic behaviors, and share resources for listening to others without making it about you. We’ll explore how awareness of our own listening challenges is a gateway to having compassion for others.
What We’ll Cover:
- How Ego shows up in our listening
- How to laugh at our mistakes, rather than get defensive
- Common Listening Mistakes and Alternatives
- Tools for identifying ego behaviors in yourself and others
- Cultivating Relentless Compassion
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JUST Listening offers our services on a sliding scale as an intentional effort to distribute resources equitably between individuals & organizations, regardless of annual budget and income level. We aim to support and strengthen social benefit and strategic movement-building work. Paying at the higher end of the scale the Redistribution rate makes it possible for JUST Listening to work with those with limited income at little to no cost to them and supports volunteer programming for individuals experiencing deep poverty and/or incarceration.
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JUST Listening fosters personal, organizational, and social change and transformation through the practice of conscious, intentional, compassionate, non-egoic and non-judgmental communication skills.
JUST Listening is premised upon the beliefs that:
- Being heard empowers the speaker
- People hold the solutions to their own problems within
- Skilled listening is creative, opening up new possibilities for all involved, and
can be - a powerful tool for personal and social change.
- Although rarely consulted or listened to, people on the social margins are the best
- source of information and ideas about the issues facing them.
- Skilled listening is possible only when one is actively cultivating self-awareness
and - regular habits of reflection.